It’s no secret that Caitlyn Jenner (formally known as Bruce Jenner) is under the spotlight for the major changes she’s recently made to her life. It’s all over social media that “she’s courageous”, “she’s brave”, “she’s beautiful” … then there are the other posts about how she mutilated her body, she went against God’s laws, etc.. This isn’t another Jenner post (there are more than enough of those floating around), rather it’s a post about those comparing her choices to the choices that parents make every day for their sons…circumcision.
I’m seeing this “trend” more and more on social media. One “go green” mom reads one article/blog on another mom’s thoughts and opinions on topics like circumcision, breast-feeding, vaccinations, baby-wearing – and all of a sudden every mom who doesn’t agree or does something different (like formula feed, chooses circumcision, yadda yadda yadda) is all of a sudden uneducated and should not be a parent.
Whatever happened to the thought process of “to each their own”? I have been a mother for 7 years now (I know, I’m a real pro – insert sarcasm). I have 3 girls and 2 boys (as of sometime in July I will officially have 2 boys. One is still in the womb). I am fully aware that I still have a lot to learn and a lot to be open minded about.; however, the one thing I have learned, is to worry about my family and my kids and not to care about what other’s think or do (as long as it doesn’t affect my family).
I came across a post on Facebook recently that had a picture of Caitlyn Jenner up top and on the bottom, the picture of a newborn baby boy. The caption of the picture read
“Hypocrisy: chastising an adult for self-chosen genital surgery while forcing unwanted and unnecessary genital cutting on baby boys”
This bothers me more than you know. Not because there are parents out there who choose or choose not to circumcise their child, but because of how ignorant of a statement that is.
Before social media, no one gave a flying leap if you vaccinated, if you breastfed, if you circumcised (or if you didn’t do any of these things). Now all of a sudden, it seems as though most everyone is so concerned with what the Jones’s are up to.
I’m personally sick of hearing the constant claims that are not supported by any reliable source, that circumcision is traumatizing to the child, that it’s an unnecessary cosmetic procedure, that it can cause lasting problems and infections in a child.
I’m not a doctor by any means, but I have yet to learn of any one of my friends sons, or my family members, friends, etc that have lasting and damaging effects from being circumcised.. I have yet to hear of any grown man say how he’s so angered that his parents didn’t let him have that choice when he was ready. I have yet to learn of any grown man recall the day he was born and how unbearable the “pain” from the circumcision was for him.
What about getting your daughter’s ears pierced when she’s an infant/small child? Isn’t that an unnecessary cosmetic “procedure”? Isn’t it unfair for a parent to make such a life changing choice for their daughter, without their daughter’s consent? Maybe she doesn’t want to have holes in her ears when she’s older. Perhaps, she will be forever scarred, and will never want to shop at a Claire’s, or jewelry store when she’s older because of how traumatic the experience was for her? Oh, what’s that? That’s the most ridiculous thing you’ve ever heard? Exactly..
The whole reason for me writing this piece is not to stir up controversy. It’s not to say those who choose to (or choose not to) circumcise are wrong, or are bad parents. Rather, it’s to help open people’s minds to the reality that what you feel is best for you and your family, is not always best for another.
When I think of poor parenting choices, I think of things such as
*Leaving your child unattended (or with any Joe Schmo) so you can go out.
*smoking pot while pregnant/breastfeeding or in front of your kids
*not teaching your children proper hygiene
*not paying attention to your children
*not leaving diapers and shoes and proper basic necessities with your child’s daycare provider
*drinking and driving with children in the car
*smoking cigarettes with your children in the car
..I think you can see where I’m going with this.
Social media has become the root of so much controversy, so much hate, and so much competition.
Time for everyone to realize that we are all flawed, we are all imperfect. Support one another when you can; and when you can’t because your beliefs and views are different than theirs, keep your hurtful and negative thoughts/feelings to yourself (remember what our parents taught us “if you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all”?) . If you don’t agree with someone’s choice that’s fine, but don’t belittle them and act as if you’ve made the right choice in every situation in your life.
Stand united. Not divided.